Finding Themba Jay

I was thinking some time back. That I have gone through the hectic process of being uncomfortable with myself and as a result of that, I lived to appease others. And I’ll confess this much to you: I remember shrinking myself, especially with my fascination with language — writing and public speaking. So, I started …

Don’t tell the kids, show them

Kids are something else. Intuitively smart and in tune with the world around them. Their minds being blank canvasses make them impressionable, teachable. So, when we opt to live in fear of discovering our greatest selves, they grow up and live out the same patterns, too. They most often follow actions, not motivational sayings. Before …

Do you have an office?

In all of 2019, I’ve been asked that question numerous times. Younger peeps ask it for the reason of (perhaps) ascertaining whether I am making money. Or worse, so they should decide how much respect they should show me. Older folks ask the question mainly because that’s the world they grew up in. A brick-and-mortar …

Overcoming my own limitations

As 2019 draws to a close, I have found myself thinking. And by far, it has been a whirlwind of a year. I made serious personal strides — I managed to make myself a different man. Overcoming my own limitations was always going to be a huge task. Changing myself completely (and leave behind the …

Working in the Retail Business Helped my Writing

Standing with me arms folded is Sinethemba — she helped me get a job in retail, at a South African clothing chain called PEP in 2012. The reason I went to Carlton Centre in the first place was because I had dropped out of Boston Media House college months prior and needed money to pay …