Falling into the trap of thinking that useless things matter is easy.
We can see and touch these things. They’re here now; they make us feel good now.
But, detecting a strong connection with someone else and nurturing it is the art. The very work we need to be doing — not polishing our toys incessantly. And neglecting human connections. (Of course, there’s nothing wrong with acquiring beautiful things. None at all.)
Well, perhaps I have this view because I am emotional. I feel easily. I care about people too much. I am more into human connections than gold-and-silver possessions. That’s the reason I see the world this way.
And by “useless things”, I am talking about anything else inanimate that takes the lead over the importance of people.
You know, I’ve seen and heard about stories of people who sit in their rocking chairs, with wrinkled faces, gnarled hands, while they think about their lives. What they have been through. And quite often, they see more clearly at that age. Like Steve Jobs once said that the dots never connect while looking forward, they connect and make sense when looking back.
It is true.
At age 80, it will be easier to see that the things that seemed important while you were young were actually (utterly) useless. That freezing time for people, being fully present with them, was much easier to do than you imagined. It will then become apparent that hiding behind the “I am a busy person” reason, or whichever one, in order to avoid being there for people was childish, too.
While on the matter of busyness, I feel that no one is ever that busy. If they are, then you are not that important to them. You are, sorry to burst your bubble, way down their pecking order.
Chasing and focusing our energy in the wrong things has us hurling around wisdom like, Life begins at 40. I find that saying to be brain dead, to say the least.
And I think…
The most difficult ability for many people to develop is this: seeing things in the long term. Starting and doing things from a bigger picture standpoint. In such an instance, the minutiae of the process don’t matter so much. Another thing is being able to see a problem way before it occurs.
(It might be hard to imgine, but please try…) What will be most important to you at age 90? Your car? Your expensive house? A boat? Or that watch? People? Genuine love and relationships? Or perhaps, the amount of money you’d have?
Let us try and think bigger picture. Perhaps then it’ll be easier to appreciate and nurture human connections. All of life starts and flows from those connections.
People were created to be loved. Things were created to be used. The reason why the world is in chaos is because things are being loved and people are being used.
— Dalai Lama