The science of becoming better

I ran the other direction. As fast and furiously as I could manage. The place, I thought to myself, is not good for me. Certainly not conducive for my goals, and often, it doesn’t offer freedom for persons wanting to be their weird and best selves. As you know, almost nothing ever grows right from …

Toothache, books and my bed

First, I gotta honestly tell ya! The pain is searing. I have been postponing the extraction of the tooth that's giving me hell. Part of the reason is, I convinced myself that the pain came from my gum tissues than a ruined tooth. Denial much? Second thing I wish to share with you is this: …

Sitting in silence

"To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions." So said one Deepak Chopra. And I can attest. I have been going …

Read and unchain yourself (how I became an eloquent communicator)

Sounds very poetic, does it not? I think it does; did you agree with me? Anyway, that's neither nor there. The philosophy is deceptively simple. Yet powerful enough to start a series of fascinating personal changes that eventually cause these ripple effects that travel vibrantly from the centre of the ocean -- your centre, your …

Constantly unlearning and relearning

Those are words, now etched in my title, I read as I scrolled through my WhatsApp contact list the other day. It was someone else's status message And I have to confess. I have not always enjoyed learning. Simply because when you start that process of learning, it is difficult to stop. As you learn …

Being in Mamelodi, Pretoria taught me this

I remember that Saturday morning. Awake, preparing the few clothes I was to pack and travel with. My younger brother was up then and we thought we'd watch an episode of Family Guy. And that we did. Sheer fun. Around 6:20AM, I finally had to leave the house and walk up to Sibusiso 's house …

What a friend taught me after he was robbed at gunpoint

He really looked his normal, handsome self. I welcomed him into the house and offered him a seat. Mfana, how are you doing? I asked. "Ey ndoda. Nothing much," he said. I went to do something not so important in another room and came back to him. I sat down and faced him. And I …

I should …

I should be crying hard. But for some reason I can't let it out. You know, for all the things we did. The memories created. For the things we should have said to each other but we did not. I now know and understand that letting go killed you emotionally, too. As it did me. …

People ought to be dearly loved and things, used

Falling into the trap of thinking that useless things matter is easy. We can see and touch these things. They're here now; they make us feel good now. But, detecting a strong connection with someone else and nurturing it is the art. The very work we need to be doing -- not polishing our toys …

The reason(s) I am not a millionaire yet

I might be exaggerating a little (but it's necessary). So, I recently rekindled my habit of running -- after a long time of inactivity. After a few days of being back at it, I found myself enjoying myself more than I have ever. And no, jogging sessions are not necessarily the reason I am not …