Care: best way to have a great conversation

Have you ever been so engrossed in an exchange that you lost all sense of time and your surroundings? I have. Manier times than I care to count. And now that I think about my best conversations, the reason is quite simple why I enjoyed them as I did. I deployed care and genuine curiosity. …

No love dying

  For reasons we thought best We parted ways She cried A lot Her eyes swell I was miserable I wrote myself into a stupor Though pithy, our text conversations were intense She wasn’t going to let it be She let me know There’ll be no love dying here It seemed as though she was …

De-cluttering and starting anew

Efficiency steps in the moment you get rid of clutter and achieve total simplicity. Things presented simply attract attention and stand out because of our inclination to complicate the life out of things. The big lie that has come to be worshipped (albeit privately): Complicated and intricate translates into impressive. It's precisely the reason we …

Jamie and Charmaine: sheer hardship and love

"If it had been precisely a year ago, I probably would've missed her striking presence. In fact, I think I would've childishly whizzed past her, labeled her boring and thought of someone else insignificant and then moved my roving eye elsewhere. Someplace light in complexion." He, a dear friend of mine, honestly spit those words …

My father and money

You know, it is very funny. My father had a lot of money. The bastard was loaded. Hence he was nicknamed MLUNGU. But, I never had any of that money in an ostentatious way. This means no money in my own pockets on most days. No needless toys (he hated toy guys, for example, because …

The dating game is a jungle

I remember parents in my neighbourhood who restricted their daughters from playing in the streets with other children. So they'd return from school and be indoors. On weekends, you wouldn't see them at all. I guess the idea was to have them away from boys. Which is a good idea. Boys ruin and hurt girls …

What I love about emotions

Over the years, I have met amazing people with whom I have connected deeply. And often, I always thought it was because of the things they said during our conversations. Some other times, I had no clue why I was moved by someone. Why I liked them. Until... until, I started being aware of the …

Trust and tears are a blessing

A few times too many in my young life, I have happened to sit in front of people who felt freer with me. So much so they would produce water with their eyes. I hold that dear. Every single one of those encounters. Trust... tears… blessings. I have always had a serious problem with friendships …

She left her innocence and vulnerability with me

The night fell upon us Darkness It was a fulfilling time Painful at the same time Be thankful for tough times It’s when I helped gather all the pieces of her heart That’s when it all started Slowly, but surely She gained her confidence back It made me happy After I helped save her We …

I should …

I should be crying hard. But for some reason I can't let it out. You know, for all the things we did. The memories created. For the things we should have said to each other but we did not. I now know and understand that letting go killed you emotionally, too. As it did me. …